( NEW BOOK ALERT: This post is a direct excerpt from the Children& Family section of our forthcoming record,” 1000 Little Habits of Happy, Successful Relationships “.)
Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Sometimes, however, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.
Letting go of( or breaking up with) a toxic friend, suitor, or girlfriend is something, and there’s plenty of advice out there for doing so, but what about giving make of a poisonous family member?
Most of us were not able to simply walk away , nor do we feel that we want to, or that it’s the right thing to do. So what do we do when a family member is literally curdling our lives with their toxicity? How do we are addressing our feelings of indebtednes, jumble, betrayal, and heartache?
First and foremost, you must accept the fact that not everyone’s family is healthy or available for them to lean on, to call on, or returned to their homes to. Not every family tie is built on the proposition of mutual respect, desire and patronage. Sometimes “family” simply means that you share a bloodline. That’s all. Some family members build us up, and some break us down. So merely because someone is blood-related to you, doesn’t automatically induce them the healthiest influence in your life.
Second, you must understand that a poisonous family member may be going through a difficult stage in “peoples lives”. They may be ill, chronically annoyed, or absence what they need in terms of love and emotional support. Such people need to be listened to, subscribed, and take better care( although whatever the cause of their fuss, you may still need to protect yourself from their poisonous action at times ).
The key thing to keep in mind is that every bag of dealing here with a lethal family member is a little different, but in any and every subject, there are some universal principles we need to remember, for our own purpose: ( more …)
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