The fear of public speaking is as pervasive as it is paralysing for numerous parties in the workplace today.
If you are one of the millions of people who feel restless, uncomfortable or insecure about presenting and public speaking this article will help you.
This is a statement I can realise with great confidence, as Mindful Presenter has invested over a decade facilitating some of the most intelligent, artistic and talented professionals in the world to manage and overcome their anxiety of public speaking.
If you’re interested in when, where and why your fear of public speaking started this isn’t the focus of this blog. Whether you were a 6-year-old presenting in front of your class or a 26 -year-old presenting to the board of directors for the first time isn’t our detail of focus for now.
Our prime concern and intent is to share potential solutions to overcome the career limiting fear of public speaking. Please don’t misunderstand me, I know it can be comforting and helpful to know how and why everything there is started. For now, let’s focus on what you can do to help yourself.
Please keep in mind as you search through this article that, contrary to common faith, there are no’ spell wands’ or’ silver-tongued bullets’ which will instantly remove the discomfort. It makes mindfulness, rehearse, an open thinker and effort to work your road through the challenge.
Your place as you read this article is to try out the ideas that resonate with you in some manner , no matter how small. As you do so, keep in mind that repetition together with reflection is the mother of learning.
Tip 1- Mark Twain was right
Here at Mindful Presenter Ltd we believe that Mark Twain was right when he said, “There are two types of speakers: Those who get nervous and those who are liars.”
Please don’t delude yourself that “youve been” handpicked by the Universe as one of the adopt few to feel the fear of public speaking during your time here on earth.
It’s a world and densely populated club; you are not alone.
Your first chore is to acknowledge and accept it as normal. Only then can you properly begin to explore and try using some of the other suggestions.
Tip 2- Listen to Wayne Dyer, he was right too
I believe it was the late Dr Wayne Dyer who said, “If you reform the room you look at things, the things you look at change.”
This of course is a significant human challenge which gives itself far beyond the fear of public speaking. You can predict much more about this in one of Wayne Dyer’s first records,’ Your Erroneous Zones.’
Rather than “ve been thinking about” and seeing your audience as piranhas who are there to evaluate, challenge and criticise you, ask yourself if there is a truer perspective.
Is it possible that they are simply looking for you to help make their lives better, easier or happier in some way?
Tip 3- Stop presenting and start connecting
Do you truly enjoy being presented to?
Most beings don’t; they prefer to be connected with.
It was the most inspirational Maya Angelou who said, “I’ve learned that parties will forget what you said, parties will forget what you did, but beings will never forget how you uttered them feel.”
Have you ever come across a greater truism?
Rather than focusing on how you can impress your gathering try thinking about how you can attain them feel something emotionally as well as intellectually.
Tip 4- Speak neatly to yourself
In his article, ‘No Freaking Speaking’, Matt Abrahams says 😛 TAGEND
‘We are really mean to ourselves. There are things we do to ourselves that we could never imagine doing to others. Nowhere is this more evident than prior to giving a appearance. The negative self-talk we mention and the anxiety tales we tell ourselves placed us up for failure.’
Just speak delicately to yourself.
Tip 5- Remember how far you’ve come
It’s highly likely that the reason you are presenting in the first place is because you have a level of learning, penetration or message which your audience doesn’t.
Whether this is true or not, it doesn’t genuinely matter.
The fact is you have come a very long way so far and you owe it to yourself to remember that.
Do you remember 😛 TAGEND
Learning to ride your first bicycle Surpas an quiz at school Your firstly kiss Being offered your very first job Being promoted Falling in love
I’m certain that your index of personal accomplishments no matter how seemingly small is much wider.
The next time the fear of public speaking begins to raise its sinister leader, really retain how far you’ve come.
“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or hopeless, is rarely a function of our true ability. It is more likely government functions of our beliefs about who we are.”- Anthony Robbins
Tip 6- Ask yourself 4 questions
The next time you are called on to present and you feel the fear of public speaking ask yourself what’s going through your mind.
Once you have identified those thoughts and limiting beliefs that are causing you so much unrest ask yourself the following 4 questions.
Question 1: Is it true?
Question 2: Can you utterly know it’s genuine?
Question 3: How do you react–what happens–when you believe that judged?
Question 4: Who would you be without the hope?
Tip 7- Take it to Vagus
The greatest physiological endowment we all have in our journey to manage and overcome the fear of public speaking and presenting is our vagus nerve. Here is an extract from an section I wrote many years ago; ‘Public Speaking Doesn’t Have to Feel So Stressful’
‘We’ve all heard of’ defend or flight’ which is a primitive more critical purpose of our supportive nervous system which mostly says that when we feel under threat our organization reacts in an instant to either fight off the threat or moved away from it. Unfortunately, the feeling of vulnerability when speaking to people in public can represent a significant conscious and subconscious threat for a large number of people. This is where the vagus nerve can come to our speedy rescue because as an essential part of our parasympathetic nervous system it’s the gut that allays you down
One of the best ways to stimulate the vagus nerve to mollify us down when we feel so anxious about presenting and public speaking is to breathe properly.
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